RANT: guys and their “type”
When I ask guys what their “type” is, they usually answer with the typical things: pretty, nice, funny, etc. What I hear ALL the time, particularly, is that they’re looking for an independent girl with drive and ambition. They say this like they’re something special wanting a girl that’s independent.
Shut up.
First, a girl being independent shouldn’t even be that rare to find. I know so many independent women. I mean… I guess attending a women’s college that builds leaders helps… but still. What kind of an individual, a woman no less, has no ambition? Independence? We all live in the same world in our own selves. We are all independent and dependent!
Second, do you truly want an “independent” girl. Independence is great… but so is dependence. If you want someone in your life, shouldn’t you strive to have some kind of dependency? That’s what a relationship is all about; I think depending on another person is healthy through trust and love. So why even point that out as one of the major attractive trait?
Also… are you going to be saying the same thing when you’re married to a girl that’s at work all the time and you’re forced to do your own laundry, cook your own food, sew your own clothes, clean & decorate the house, and everything else your mom did for you when you were a child and probably even now?
Yeah.
A part of me is frustrated that guys ALWAYS say they want an independent girl with drive because I get defensive (hence this rant). WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN? I have goals and ambitions. Who doesn’t?
Does that mean a woman that strongly strives to be a wife and a mother isn’t as independent or desirable as a woman who wants to become a CEO? I personally find more joy in cooking, cleaning, gardening, decorating, and taking care of people that I love then studying my ass off for an exam or giving important speeches. Does that make me less desirable?
I don’t even know how to respond to a guy with a “type” like that.
Do I say “Oh, I’m independent”, “Oh, I’m driven”, or “Oh, I have goals.” Because I AM independent (and surely dependent). I’m driven. & I have plenty of goals.
But so does everyone else.
you can only trust someone if he/she is trustworthy
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I want to find someone that I like as much as I love.
Finding a bug in my room
When I’m too scared to kill it, I’m like:
When my boyfriend is too scared to kill it, I’m like:
